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So Long and Thanks For All The Shoes

26 Feb

Hello Wonderful Readers,

As I’m sure most of you have guessed by this long hiatus, after a lengthy decision period I’ve decided to close this chapter of The Hindsight Letters project. A number of life changes, not the least of which being an enormous cross country move, have significantly cut down my time in the past few months. And, being keen on the Quality Control factor of THL, I haven’t wanted to post anything that wasn’t up to snuff.

The Hindsight Letters has been such a challenging and fulfilling project for me. I’ve been so blessed to be able to share in the many amazing stories submitted by THL’s incredible group of contributors. Thanks to each and every one of you for opening up your joyous, hilarious, heartbreaking, and most importantly, awkward teenaged stories to the world in this forum. I most definitely couldn’t have made The Hindsight Letters without you.

Is this a permanent goodbye? Quite possibly not. I would very much like to leave the door open for future submissions from anyone interested, as well as the occasional Letter written by myself. I’ve never been very good with farewells ūüôā

And so, I’ll part with you (for now) with a song by Noah And The Whale all about the good, the bad, and the nostalgia of being a teenager growing up in the suburbs, “planning my escape”.

So long, and thanks for all the shoes,

Kyra

*GUEST SUBMISSION* Letter 68: You’re About To Break Your Mama’s Heart

24 Oct

Amber writes:

Dear me at 12,

You are about to break your mama’s heart, and I wish you wouldn’t.

The Author (right) at 12

Things are getting harder with her, I know. You’re almost a teenager, and no one gets along with her mother during middle school. But since your dad is trying to convince you to move in with him, it’s going to be harder than usual. And when you decide he’s right and you begin a two year custody battle… oh honey. You’re in for some heartache.

I know the grass seems greener at Dad’s house. Your stepfamily is super cool, whereas your mom is cramping your style. You don’t understand your new stepdad’s humor. You have to share a room with your little sister since your big sister moved back in, and your baby nephew cries a lot. ¬†Compare that to Dad’s promise of your own room and a puppy if you moved in with him. You’re forgetting something big when you make this decision: Your dad and stepmom can be cool and permissive because they parent you every other weekend. They can’t be that cool all the time.

This is also important, and I don’t think you realize this, but your dad is kind of manipulative. Dad always says, ‚ÄúI never talk bad about your mother, BUT YOUR MOTHER…‚ÄĚ and describes some horrible thing she did. ¬†Despite his claim, he’s *always* talking bad about your mom, and usually, in half-truths at best.

Now, I don’t want to talk bad about your dad, but I won’t lie– I’m going to talk bad about him. Just listen to logic instead of arguing, pretty please. Your dad likes to have his way, and manages to get it most of the time. (This is something you get from him– try to use this talent for good, not evil.) Unlike you, however, he doesn’t mind hurting your mom, and he’s using you for that purpose. When this awful custody ordeal is finally over and he loses, he will be hurt instead. You’re going to see an ugly side of him. He and his wife will lash out by screaming obscenities at you. The worst of it will be you can’t protect your little sister, who they insist needs to hear all the screaming and cussing. ¬†Thank your lucky stars that the judge knew what he was doing and saw through the manipulation.

You and your mom will be fine. When you realize you’re turning into her, you smile. You will cover your mouth in a horrified giggle when you automatically blurt out one of your stepdad’s jokes, and you’ll call him your hero. You’ll treasure your sisters, sharing a room or otherwise. Your nephew will grow monstrously huge, but he will still look up to you, as will his sister later on. ¬†Your dad and stepmom G, however, are a little less sturdy. They’ll divorce, he’ll remarry (and divorce again), you won’t talk to your stepmom again after your stepbrother’s graduation party. Your relationship with your dad will never be whole again, but you’ll at least be on speaking terms.

Please ride this out. Give you and your mom time, and whatever angst you have will turn into a beautiful friendship. She loves you, and you love her back. (You know you do.)

Amber, 27, is an educator in East Tennessee. She loves reading (classbookworm.wordpress.com), crafting, and being with family (especially her husband and cat, Cat).

*GUEST SUBMISSION* Dear Adult Me Summer Series Finale

4 Sep

Hello everyone,

As summer draws to a close I wanted to finish the Dear Adult Me summer series with some submissions from writers who are just embarking on their adolescence.

The following is a collection of Letters written by 12 year old students to their Adult Selves, gathered by THL reader and contributor Amber Saferight. Amber is a teacher who writes a fabulous Blog called Class Bookworm. Be sure to check it out! Thanks very much to Amber for facilitating the writing of such fantastic Letters.

Although the first Letter is my personal favourite (left unsigned by a mystery student! How intriguing…), all the Letters are wonderful and give a glimpse of what we might have thought life would be like, as we marched unaware toward our hopelessly awkward adolescent fate. Hope you enjoy!

Kyra

 

Dear future me,

I’ve hoped for the future that I will be a doctor, married, have kids, and have a house. Have I¬†accomplished any of this stuff? Who am I married to? Also in the future I hope to be fun and not a¬†boring strict adult. Am I like that?

I hope to do all this by like my mid 20s. When you hit 30 you’re kind of considered ‚Äúold.‚ÄĚ I hope to¬†marry an Asian ’cause Asians are amazing. I hope I have a happy life.

 

Dear Adult Self,

Well right now I’m twelve years old. When I grow up I would like to be a NBA player or a teacher.¬†I want to have a family when I’m grown up. I hope I go to a good college and finish. I’m hoping that¬†when I’m older that I have many things accomplished and a lot of people, including me, are proud of¬†what I’ve made in life.

Some advice I think I should give my older self is to stay out of trouble. I’m going to keep myself onthe right path. I should get a good career and have a wonderful family. I should always keep my head¬†held high through the good and bad times. I will never give up on life.

Love,

Skyler T. (12 year old girl, shy basketball player.)

 

Dear Older Self,

Hello. I am your younger self. I’m reminding you to follow these instructions: go to college and get a¬†masters degree and diploma from high school. Try to get a job as a biologist and a cook, and try to get a¬†hot girlfriend. Always keep your head up and swim a lot.

Don’t skip college. Do not make bad grades. Do not be a doctor. Do not not get a date. I wish you good¬†luck.

Sincerely,

Alex M. (12 year old boy, likes science, cooking, and reading.)

 

Dear me,

Hi. I would like to tell you that you should always try hard in school and aim for your goals. Even¬†when it seems like school is boring and grades aren’t important, they really are. And when you make¬†a bad grade, try everything you can to bring it up. By getting bad grades, you may not get the job you¬†want. Even when you feel like not trying in school, try to get through the day and think how things will¬†effect you in the future.

Also try to keep a positive attitude and not worry so much about things. Think about what you do before you do it, think how it will effect the future. Try hard at everything you do. Always do your best at everything you do.

From,

Paiton (12 year old girl, enjoys laughing with friends)

 

Dear Adult Me,

Whenever I get older I want to have a good job! Mt mom says I should be a masseuse because I give¬†her massages all the time and she loves it. I love to do hair. I do my sister’s hair sometimes for school. I¬†also like to play with my mom’s hair but she won’t let me fix it for work.

When I get older since I will hopefully have a job I want to have a big house so all my family can live¬†with me. I love my family and like to see them. I also won’t have any kids, but might adopt a girl. I¬†can’t wait to see how I change over the years and see what I look like when I get older. I hope I keep¬†my brown hair and hope it stays wavy.

<3,

Megan R. (12 year old softball player)

 

Dear Future Nathan,

What is the future like? Is there a cure for cancer? Did I ever make it to the police academy? Was there another war that effects our country, like WW2? Was there new technology invented like a flying car? Or teleporting? Also how old am I when I sign up for the police force? Also what is the economy like? Has it gotten better or worse?

Sincerely,

Nathan W. (12 year old, enjoys making jokes and video games.)

 

Dear myself,

Hey myself I want to be a doctor when I grow up. If I get smarter. You get good money for that. I¬†might get good working hours. I think it will be fun.¬†I hope I’ve got good hair. I hope I look good too. Be rich too. But even more have a good life. Even¬†more, be a nice person.

Skyler H. (12 year old boy, likes baseball)

 

Dear Adult Self,

I want to be either a video game maker, a lawyer, or a chef. If you become a lawyer, I would like you to get a Ferrari for you and your husband, and an Explorer to go on trips with your family. If you have a boy I would like to name him Jacob. If it’s a girl I would like her to be named Elianna. After our best friend Elianna.

I would still like to live in east Tennessee. Because I would like our children to live in the beautiful  countryside of Tennessee. I would like to live in a fairly large house with a large backyard. Well that is it future me. Please think about it and take your time.

Yours truly,

The 12 year old Amanda

 

Dear Adult Self.

I want to be a ped dr when I grow up. I want to always be with my family and friends. If I have kids I would want them to play sports like basketball, football, and softball/baseball. I would hope that I would still be in church and act like a Christian should act. I hope that I am still singing too!

I think I will still have blonde hair. I will probably be around 5’3‚ÄĚ. I would look like a Christian should look. I hope when people look at me they could tell I am a good Christian. I hope I will always have a positive attitude.

Love always,

Kaitlin

 

(Open when age 15!)

Dear Adult me,

Make sure you graduate. Make good grades when you are in high school. Try to be yourself as much as possible. Do as much as possible. You can’t be lazy and do all shortcuts.

Be a vet when you get to college. Do what your boss said to do all the time. Love the job and marry anyone that wants to work. Help with your mom, dad, and your family as much as possible.

Love,

Lillie

 

Dear Future Self,

I want to be a pro baseball player. It is not very easy to do. I will have to set fourth effort and stick with it. Practice every chance you get to be better.

I also want to not be greedy. I think that in the future I need to help people in need. You need to donate money to the homeless. That will make me respected. That’s all I have to say.

Sincerely,

Brian

 

 

 

*GUEST SUBMISSION* “Dear Adult Me” Letter 60: These Are The Things That Make Us Me

19 Jul

Throughout the summer, I’ll be sharing Letters written by some of THL’s (very talented) teenaged readers. The Letters for this series will be addressed to the writers’ Adult Self, written from the perspective of a current teenager. If you are between the ages of 12 and 19 and would like to submit a Letter, please visit the Submit A Letter page to learn more!

Bay writes:

Dear Adult Me,

I have so many questions for you! Did I end up as a doctor? Am I married? Did I keep any of the friends I have right now? What mistakes can I avoid?

Unfortunately, there’s no way for ‘me-at-18’ to benefit from the experience of ‘me-at-35’. However, if I somehow remember I did this, it’s entirely possible that you could come back and read this letter. So maybe it’s possible for YOU to benefit from some of the things I know!

First of all, please don’t ever let us be estranged from our family. No matter what happens, or how things end up, they love us. We are so blessed in our relatives, and I won’t be very happy if you let pride screw that up!

Second, I have some really great friends right now who I know will care about you too. I know you won’t stay close to all of them or talk to them all the time like I do now. But they truly love you and will always be honest with you, so if you need someone to cry with or someone who’ll shoot straight with you, look them up.

Finally, stay strong. Don’t lose faith in God. Don’t compromise on your convictions. I know you’ll grow and mature from where I am now, (thank goodness!) but do me a favor, try to stay essentially the same person! Love clothes and shoes, read as much as you can, be addicted to music, find the fun in everything! Care about people, feel things deeply, stay loyal to friends, keep that eternal optimism, and never give up your adoration of chocolate. These are the things that make us me.

Well, see you in 17 years!

P.S. If you could avoid getting really extremely fat, I’d appreciate it.

The Author Today

Bay is a cynical romantic who spends her time reading, writing, and¬†dazzling the world with her sparkling wit. You can find her rambling’s at¬†Bay285.blogspot.com, where she continues to write even though no-one is¬†reading. She loves comments!

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Don’t Forget to Check out THL on CBC’s “Being Jann”!

15 Jul

The lovely Jann Arden and I

Hi everyone!

Don’t forget to check out my interview with the lovely and talented Jann Arden on CBC Radio One’s “Being Jann” this Saturday, July 16th at 10 a.m. Take a peek at the “Being Jann” website for more information on air times on CBC Radio One and Sirius Satellite 159.

For those more devoted Hindsight Letters readers (or those of you who particularly enjoy listening to me ramble awkwardly) you can also download the podcast on the show’s website. The whole show is amazing, with lots of great tunes and awesome guests, and the THL segment begins around 28 minutes into the podcast.

Again, thanks so much to the CBC, Jann Arden, Sara Tate, and all our amazing readers and contributors for supporting this project. You guys are awesome!

-Kyra

Hindsight Fashion: The Bra-Strap Headband

9 Mar

Throughout the decades, teenagers have attempted to prove their coolness by wearing questionable accessories, hairstyles and items of clothing. Hindsight Fashion is a section about those trends that, in Hindsight, we probably wish we hadn’t worn.

This week’s Hindsight Fashion is: The Bra-Strap Headband.

At some point in 1999, someone very stylish decided to tie their hair back with a bra strap. We cannot be sure who. We cannot be sure why. We cannot be sure how said person’s bra strap wound up removed from their bra in the first place, or how it wound up in their hair. What we do know is that the Bra-Strap Headband quickly became the must-have accessory of the late nineties. Women everywhere (and frighteningly, men, albeit the same crowd mentioned in the last Hindsight Fashion) bought Bra-Strap Headbands in every shape and fabric and wore them with both casual and dressy attire.

The benefits of the Bra-Strap Headband were many: It did an excellent job of keeping one’s hair out of one’s face. Because it was so tight, is also naturally created a little volume behind it, closer to one’s ponytail (this being years before the invention of the¬†“Bumpit”). And of course, it was rather cheeky. Not many years prior, women were reprimanded for wearing clothing that exposed their bra straps. The Bra-Strap Headband was indeed a statement piece.

The trouble with the Bra-Strap Headband was that, though it claimed to be adjustable, once it was on your head, it was impossible to adjust without taking errant strands of hair with it. The headband had to be tight enough to stay in place on your head, but not so tight that it gave you a headache. And you had to reach this balance instantly upon placing it on your head, lest you adjust and mess up the hair beneath. This was a balance that I found impossible to reach. When it was secured comfortably, it would begin to slip toward my ponytail as soon as I moved my head left or right. When it was secured tight enough not to move, it would cut off the circulation to my brain. The choice was either to place it loosely and remain staring forwards at all times, or to place it securely and risk passing out. After several attempts, I decided to retire my Bra-Strap Headbands altogether.

Like all trends, the Bra-Strap Headband had its moment in the spotlight and then slowly began to fade into obscurity. Though I cannot say that I loved this trend, I will admit to casually combing the depths of my frighteningly disorganized hair accessory bag of late, looking for something with which to keep the hair off my face during Mommy/Baby swim lessons. Unfortunately, I have not been able to find my collection of Bra-Strap Headbands. But when I do, I plan to single-handedly bring this trend back to the world of aquatic fashion. Or at least pass out trying.

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*GUEST SUBMISSION* Letter 41: Just Relax and Enjoy Yourself

7 Mar

Pravin writes:

Dear me at 16:

Your life does not belong to anyone else.

It does not belong to your dad who thinks arts subjects such as English and Classical Studies are paving stones on the road to nowhere.

It does not belong to your teacher who thinks that his subject is perhaps not quite right for you, despite your own interests and your exam results to the contrary.

It does not even belong to your future self, who is thinking about the best way to get a decent job.

The truth is, your life only belongs to you as you are right now. Sure, your dad and your teacher may have a certain degree of wisdom based on their own age and experience, and it’s right to make use of that, but you also have some experience. And let’s be honest, it’s a long time since they were 16.

And as for your future self, i.e. me: Despite all my planning, I certainly didn’t expect things to turn out like they have. And as far as you’re concerned, I don’t exist.

Only you know what it’s truly like to be you at this moment in time. Whatever decision you make about your education will have a significant impact for years to come. But no one knows how significant. So, just relax and enjoy yourself.

Pravin is a writer and academic. His blog, greenphd.wordpress.com, was meant to be an account of researching for a PhD but, as this letter highlights, things never quite turn out as one would expect.

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