Dear me at 16:
What are you looking for? What do you think you’ll find in those new friends, those Saturday night parties, that hockey boy that barely gives you the time of day… love, acceptance, a place to fit in? If you stopped and looked around you’d realize that you already have all those things, that there are people in your life that have given you a place to belong and that love and accept you just the way you are.
It’s amazing how in three short years the canvas of your life can completely change. The friends and family that were once so prominent in the foreground start to fade into the background. Goals and priorities shift, changing the pattern of your life and altering your setting.
In three years, you can gain so much. Experiences, knowledge, friends, and memories. But, sadly, you can lose even more. The friend that’s known you since diapers slowly drifts into the background and before you know it, she’s not even in the same picture as you. When you realize that she’s missing, it’ll be too late to get her back and you will never find another friend like her no matter how hard you look.
You’ll make a lot of friends and have a lot of fun with them. It will seem like nothing and no one could ever replace them. Only a few of those friends will become truly important in your life and you’ll always miss the one you let fall by the wayside. Those precious few will stand by you through the storms and heartbreaks, celebrate your defining moments, and help you become a better person.
So, take note of those important people in your life and hold them close to you. Cherish them, make sure they know what they mean to you. You will discover that true friends are invaluable and difficult to find. Everything you are looking for can be found in those true friends.
A native Calgarian, Melissa married her amazing hubby while earning a bachelor’s degree in psychology. After being blessed with their first two daughters, Melissa juggled motherhood and working part-time until their son came along. She is now a full-time mom/taxi driver/cook/entertainment coordinator/nurse or whatever else is required in a day!